Maybe your dreams are playing out the same fantasies you're having when you're awake, and that might call for a conversation with your partner. "If your sex dreams are about a particular person, especially someone you know in your real life, you should consider whether there is a real-life attraction (not a problem) and any sort of dalliance or flirtation with them (a problem)," she says. For some, an infidelity dream might come from real flirting with or attraction to someone who isn't their partner, says Jessa Zimmerman, a certified sex therapist and author of " Sex Wit hout Stress.
Dream interpretation isn't a solid science, so a dream about cheating isn't going to mean the same thing for everyone who dreams it. So maybe your sex dreams aren't about sex at all. So breaking any other kind of promise is the same theme, and your worries over that are showing up in a different (and sexier) storyline. "If we think about cheating on a partner, that's a place where you gave your word but you're going back on your word," she says. The "symbol of cheating" could mean many different things, depending on what your culture and upbringing taught you about cheating. "A cheating dream may not suggest cheating at all, but instead suggests looking deeper into what the symbol of cheating means to you," Dr. Instead, it's meant to be used as a symbol of something going on in your life. And according to Jung, a dream doesn't necessarily reveal repressed wishes.
There's another famous psychologist we have to consider here, says Danielle Forshee, Psy.D, a psychologist and social worker: Carl Jung. After all, didn't Freud say that our dreams reveal our subconscious desires?ĭespite what Freud said, having a cheating dream doesn't necessarily mean that you want to cheat on your partner. What do these dreams mean? Even if you know that your sexual thoughts haven't strayed from your partner, and you'd never cheat in real life, having sex dreams about someone else can make you feel like there's something majorly wrong in your relationship. Often, we wake up from dreams about infidelity drenched in sweat and guilt. But, when you're in a relationship, those sexy dreams can turn tumultuous because they don't always feature your partner in the starring role. Your unconscious mind gets to go on sexual adventures your awake self might never be brave enough to try. When you're single, sex dreams are kind of the best.